Very hurt with in laws. how to overcome and forget them?

You do just as you said, leave them right where they stand. Do not make special efforts to see or interact w/ them, do not worry about your hubby's family at all. However, this will and trust this fact, will eventually hurt your hubby on the inside. The reason is because he wants you all to get along im sure, but unfortunately things arent working out this way, but dont fret because sounds to me like you have a wonderful hubby, because he is supporting you and baby, by not interacting w/ them as well, as he see's their evil ways too, but im sure he is hurt by this too.Just try and be cordial w/ them as if you just met them, not worrying about what they can do for you, or how they interact w/ your precious baby. Your baby needs you & daddy the most. Do not force them to even look at your bundle of joy, you will only hurt yourself because you love your baby so much, and you think to yourself, how could a grown woman or man not want to share the same experience. You should always behave in a manner in which they will have no other choice but to 'respect' you. although they may never 'like' you, it is crucial that they respect what you have accomplished, which is make their son,brother, cousin (your hubby) a better man,father,friend etc. Always send pictures, small gifts on holidays, just to keep his family updated, and show how youre NOT on their same page and you will NOT indulge and feed into their evil ways. On Holidays, cook your own meals at home, make it a family function, all at the same time you still need to incorporate your husbands family and try to mend things w/ your in-laws, by you being the better and bigger person. Tell your husband, as much as you dont want to, that you will attend family functions for a little while but as soon as you feel uncomfortable it will be time to leave and visit your own family and vice versa. I have an extended family as well and this is how i treat them too. and it has worked for me over the years, i do not give them an inch as they are prone to take that mile. I do respect my hubby's family but that's all, i do not expect them to care for our children, i do not ask for their help, however i try to be of a help to them when they need it if i can & since ive done this, his family respects me and respects me more as a wife vs. some girlfriend who is irrelevant. sometimes you have to let people see your more responsible side and they will then take you lot more seriously. Happy Marraige to you!!